'He is basically paying me $400 a month not to file for divorce': Woman gets back at husband by charging him for healthcare every month

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Jun 26, 2023 8:00 AM EDT

This woman deserves an Oscar for how petty she is. Not only has she found a way to make her husband regret separating from her, but also she's profiting off of the whole thing as well. She shared her story via this thread on Reddit's r/pettyrevenge subreddit. 

 

Here's how she made it happen (and if you're in a position to do this to your future ex, be sure to take notes). Her husband is self-employed and wants to stay on his ex-wife's insurance plan, which costs her nothing at all so it doesn't really affect her either way. However, in order to tease out his desperation, she said that she'd allow him to stay on her insurance plan provided that he pay her $400 a month. That money is being used for her own enjoyment, including her upcoming vacation in Spain. Iconic! 

 

Now, the facts are that even if they are separated, the husband can stay on his wife's insurance plan so long as they aren't officially divorced. This means that basically that monthly $400 payment is what is actively keeping OP from filing for divorce and kicking him off her plan. 

 

We all know that divorce tends to bring out the worst in people, but here we have someone who seems to be fully self-actualizing through all of this. Sure, I wouldn't want her to be my wife or ex-wife, but from afar, I have to marvel at her audacity. And if I ever have the upper hand like she does here, I will definitely use this story as a blueprint for my course of action.

 

Keep scrolling below to read the full story from her perspective. For more stories like this, here's one about an employee's revenge on their coworker after they had been carpooling together for over a year.

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    Hand - PA+ Pettiness"
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    Font - Husband who dumped me now pays me not to file for divorce My husband of 25 years decided he wanted to split up. I unsuccessfully begged him to change his mind, and spent a lot of nights crying on the bathroom floor. One thing to note is that I carried the health insurance for the family. He is self-employed.
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    Font - When he wouldn't change his mind, we filed for legal separation and he moved out. In the meantime, I got a BANGIN' new job that covers 100% of the health and dental insurance premiums for the entire family, with a $100 deductible. Sweeeeet.
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    Font - He is still allowed to be on my insurance, since we are legally separated rather than divorced, and it costs me nothing to have him on my insurance. But I am petty as So I charge him $400 a month for something that costs me $0. He of course is welcome to get insurance on his own in the marketplace, which would probably cost at least 2x that amount for an equivalent policy. I make sure he knows it costs me nothing, nada, zip to have him on my insurance, and that his $400/ month payment is
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    Font - If you have a legal separation, getting a divorce in my state is just a matter of filing a form and paying $60. If I did that, he couldn't be on my insurance anymore. So he is basically paying me $400 a month not to file for divorce, after not wanting to be married anymore. I love it.
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    Font - wolfie379 +2.2 hr. ago Don't know about your jurisdiction's laws, but be sure to update your will. In many jurisdictions, if you don't have a will (and any will you had before marriage is voided when you marry), everything goes to your spouse on your death. 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - wintry_mixxx OP 2 hr. ago Oh, that is the FIRST thing I did. 1.3k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - ThatWhich Lurks782. 3 hr. ago Amazing. A+ pettiness and I hope you enjoy Spain ↑ 465 Reply Share
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    Font - Spamacus66 · 2 hr. ago You know every year it seems to me that insurance only gets more expensive doesn't it?........... 208 Reply Share
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    Font - wintry_mixxx OP 2 hr. ago You are very right, it's amazing how fast those costs can climb! 151 Reply Share
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    Font - Helpful_Ad_4211 · 2 hr. ago LEGEND STATUS 64 Reply Share GroundbreakingWeb963 . 2 hr. ago Until he figures out about alimony. :
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    Font - Pure-Medicine8582. 2 hr. ago You are Chief Petty officer Tom petty from petty-coat junction hanging out with Kyle petty eating Petti-fors.... LEGEND STATUS for you, m'lady!!
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    Font - DirtyPiss 2 hr. ago I don't even think this is petty, its just capitalist. Our world is filled with people charging for things that cost the person almost nothing to provide. If OP did this to a stranger she'd be praised for her hustle, but because its her asshole ex she's supposed to give it for free? OP is getting a good deal, her ex is getting a good deal, the only petty bit is making sure he knows. Good for you OP.
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    Art - CoderJoel 2 hr. ago Yes, enjoy your spouse pain, I mean Spain.
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    Font - FreddyForshadowing. 3 hr. ago Seems a bit beyond petty, but congrats on the new job and the upcoming trip just the same. Everyone deserves some happiness in their life.
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    Font - No-Mechanic-3048. 2 hr. ago Slow clap while standing up
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    Font - 40thievez 57 min. ago You are charging him too little. My husband and I both receive full free healthcare at our jobs. My husbands jobs pays him an extra $600 a month if he opts out of insurance with proof of being covered a different way. So of course he opts out and is covered with mine. Charge your ex $600.
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